I've always found that I need both the company of people and solitude. My wife can tell when I'm "peopled out" as she puts it and is tolerant of my alone time. I don't usually seek out the company of others, but I've also come to recognize when my internalizing stress or anxiety can be self destructive and then it's time to get out of my own head for a while. So for some of us it's a balance.
I'm also very fortunate to have a job in resource management so if I'm having a crummy day I can always hop in my work rig and head out to the woods; there's always something I need to do out there....
I admit I have tried goading you out in the past. Im sorry. I do still really want a Pine Lake Soirée with “Leave Nazis Alone, Free Speech is Good” members.
Quantity of people is orthogonal to community. Even a hermit can have community, and even a bugman in a pod tower in the heart of the hive can have none.
As someone who has always tolerated prolonged solitude extremely well, and as a wounded idealist who is tempted to just quit talking to everyone, I was recently called out by someone's observation (not to me directly) that hermitage is not loving your neighbor. Martin Luther mat have been quoted. For me at least, that's exactly what it is: being tired and discouraged and wanting to give up on people. Silly, because the people I actually try to help are impacted. Without at all denigrating country living or peaceful solitude, voluntaryism can't function without community.
I think we all need some solitude as well as some social connection. The balance varies of course.
In urban environments we have seen the rise in use of noise-cancelling headphones. Big 1970s-style cans. As antisocial as this seems I suspect it is because many need some solitude even when in a big city.
I also agree we need distance. Much of modern life is orchestrated to enmesh us. Addictive social media, outrage porn on the news, fear-mongering everywhere. It is hard to escape. It is all too easy to become trapped in this addictive spiral. And almost none of it affects us directly. So solitude creates distance, and distance creates perspective.
I've always found that I need both the company of people and solitude. My wife can tell when I'm "peopled out" as she puts it and is tolerant of my alone time. I don't usually seek out the company of others, but I've also come to recognize when my internalizing stress or anxiety can be self destructive and then it's time to get out of my own head for a while. So for some of us it's a balance.
I'm also very fortunate to have a job in resource management so if I'm having a crummy day I can always hop in my work rig and head out to the woods; there's always something I need to do out there....
I must add that I wasn’t feeling sorry for you, I was selfishly hoping to throw a party with friends I haven’t met yet. This still stands
I admit I have tried goading you out in the past. Im sorry. I do still really want a Pine Lake Soirée with “Leave Nazis Alone, Free Speech is Good” members.
Quantity of people is orthogonal to community. Even a hermit can have community, and even a bugman in a pod tower in the heart of the hive can have none.
I am forced into hermitville, but hate it. Some day I hope to write about my exit.
Why do you hate it?
Mr Raven, I can't describe my grief here in an excerpt. I will write about it when I am on the other side of it. Hopefully, very soon.
As someone who has always tolerated prolonged solitude extremely well, and as a wounded idealist who is tempted to just quit talking to everyone, I was recently called out by someone's observation (not to me directly) that hermitage is not loving your neighbor. Martin Luther mat have been quoted. For me at least, that's exactly what it is: being tired and discouraged and wanting to give up on people. Silly, because the people I actually try to help are impacted. Without at all denigrating country living or peaceful solitude, voluntaryism can't function without community.
Early Christians went to the dessert to fast and pray so whoever told you that is full of shit.
I think we all need some solitude as well as some social connection. The balance varies of course.
In urban environments we have seen the rise in use of noise-cancelling headphones. Big 1970s-style cans. As antisocial as this seems I suspect it is because many need some solitude even when in a big city.
I also agree we need distance. Much of modern life is orchestrated to enmesh us. Addictive social media, outrage porn on the news, fear-mongering everywhere. It is hard to escape. It is all too easy to become trapped in this addictive spiral. And almost none of it affects us directly. So solitude creates distance, and distance creates perspective.